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How to Naturally Boost Sex Libido

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Sex is so Paramount in marriage, it is meant to be enjoyed by the both parties. And when it’s comes in the other way round, necessary action needs to be taken.

Here are some natural way to boost your sexual life. Hausas the northern part of Nigeria calls it KAYAMATA .Women can prepare this and be taken by the both parties i.e husband and wife.

 INGREDIENTS 

▪Tigernut/aya(dry one)

▪Coconut

▪Dates/dabino

▪Ginger

Tigernut milk is one of the most powerful ancient food source known to humanity and used traditionally to stimulate sexual arousal, treatment of week erection, premature ejaculation in men and boosting of breast milk supply in breastfeeding mothers.

This drink is a libido booster in both men and women. It gets you or your man in the mood for sex…so I will say if you are not married, please copy and save the recipe till then but if you a married try it, it works like magic.

If your husband is the quicky type, no wahala give him this drink daily, don’t even tell him the work just prepare yourself and be ready for action…. in fact, hmmmmmm! 

METHOD:

1.Soak the dry tiger nut in a generous quantity of water for about 24 hours or overnight.

2.After the soaking, wash the nuts very well and sort out the bad ones.

3.Soak the dates for like 10minutes to soften it and remove d seed inside

4.Add coconut, ginger and tigernut

5.Put them in a blender and blend till it is smooth

6.After blending use a cheese or chiffon cloth to sieve the blended mixture.

 

B.WOMEN’S WET/LIBIDO

ENGLISH NAME: snot apple (African chew gum) 

BOTANICAL NAME: Azanza Garckeana

Nigeria local name : Goron Tula(Hausa)

This fruit helps woman enjoy orgasm, and also wetness for those who suffer from

*vagina dryness

*Low libido

* Not being able to satisfy your spouse or     partner

HOW TO USE GORON TULA

The fruits are eaten when ripe. They are chewed like gum producing a sweet taste .This is probably why it is given the name African Chewing gum.

Some people dry them and reconstitute later. The fruits could be soaked in a small amount of water to make jelly or they could also be boiled to make porridge.

Preferred form are mixed with warm water and honey if desired

BENEFITS OF GORON TULA

Goron Tula comes as a natural remedy to solve this serious problem and much more. This fruit is to make ladies wet and ready for sex while also making men enjoy having sex with their partners. 

Every woman needs a wet vagina to have a heightened sexual experience. 

Goron Tula fruit is just what every woman needs to fix this problem and upgrade their sex game. The good news is; this fruit does not have a side effect, unlike artificial lubricants. It is a complete package of natural goodness and awesomeness

A stimulating lubricant for sexual intense for women.

This wonder nut has been a secondary remedy for sexual erectile dysfunction in men as well.

It is also used to promote better sexual urge and gratification, a stimulating lubricant for sexual experiences.

Boost fertility level in women looking to conceive. GoronTula, which is experimentaly proven and tested with both practical and laboratory tests was certified to increases fertility amongst women who find difficulty conceiving by balancing Menstrual cycle and Cramp issues.

Boost fertility level in women looking to conceive.

Helps juicy vagina wetness naturally with no need of using artificial lubricants.The singular fact that the fruit is sexually beneficial has accorded it more attention than the other numerous benefits it provides. For so many reasons, vagina dryness can be a very terrible experience and causes pains during sex making sex boring, uninteresting and unenjoyable and particularly is a big turn off for men.

A natural cleanser of vagina walls.

Helps to keep the vagina walls clean as a result of the wetness. No bad odor whatsoever. It’s a natural Vagina wall cleanser.

Excellent for menopausal women who do not produce enough vagina wetness or do not desire sex.Balances female hormones

It increases the female & male low libido

It tastes slimy sweet and slippery in your mouth when eating it. this fruit will upgrade your sex level to the fullest.

Among others benefit . The best way is to buy grinded ones and soak with honey or water and be drinking morning and night.

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9Mobile Applauds Nigerian Women, Calls for More Inclusion

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In commemoration of International Women’s Day, Nigeria’s telecommunications provider, 9mobile, has felicitated with women in the country and emphasized the need to promote equal opportunities for them in society.

Sharing his thoughts on the immense contribution of women to society, 9mobile’s Executive Director, Regulatory and Corporate Affairs, Abdulrahman Ado, highlighted the importance of celebrating equality for women from the stay-at-home mom to the business leader in corporate boardrooms. “International Women’s Day is significant and helps us celebrate women’s achievements in politics, sports, religion, business, and indeed, every area of endeavour. Women in all spheres of life are excelling across the globe and achieving new heights than ever. As men and leaders, we must call out gender bias and inequality and help to create a more inclusive and balanced world.”

Ado stated further that “At 9mobile, we create an environment that ensures that every person thrives regardless of gender. We believe in the advantage that derives from harnessing all perspectives and leveraging the unique power of diversity in our decision-making process.”

International Women’s Day is a global day set aside to celebrate the social, economic, cultural, and political achievements of women. The day also provides an avenue to call for authentic affirmative action towards improved gender inclusivity and parity. This year’s theme, #ChoosetoChallenge, is challenging women and men alike to take meaningful action to forge a gender-equal world, raise awareness against biases, question stereotypes and help develop an inclusive world. A challenged world is an alert world, and from challenge comes change.

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Be A Leading Woman that Choose to Challenge….Up You Author

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As the world celebrate this year’s International Women’s Day (IWD), women have be urged to be of high spirit and choose to challenge in order to be a leading woman in their pursuit in life.

This was the global message to women as contained in the new book, Up You, which tends to celebrate and encourage them in line with this year’s lWD slogan, Choose to Challenge.

The book, Up You, inspires hope for effective implementation of the Sustainable Development Goals,  especially the fifth agenda, which is aimed at achieving gender equality and empowerment for women and girls, for a brighter future.

It pointed out that women on their roles should ensure they be the best that you can be.

Commenting on the book, the author, Mrs. Ezinne Kufre-Ekanem, said, “Today and every day we celebrate your incredible attitude to life. Particularly how you support, challenge, and inspire all you come across year on year. You are indeed strong, smart, emphatic, ambitious, and beautiful just as you are.”

She posits that the book is dedicated to women because they have refused to be brought down despite many challenges faced daily.

“The wisdom you bring to the table is unmatched, thank you for speaking up for what you believe in. You are indeed the sum up of so many parts resulting in perfect.”
The book, according to her, should be like a guide towards finding and living the real woman always.

Celebrated annually on March 8, IWD is a time to reflect on the progress made, to call for change and celebrate acts of courage and determination by women who have played extraordinary roles in their spheres of influence.

 

 

 

 

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DLM Group Celebrates IWD With Abike Dabiri And Juliet Ehimuan

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DLM Group continues its commitment to celebrate and enable Women leaders on International Women’s Day 2021. In commemoration of this year’s International’s Women Day, Dunn Loren Merrifield; DLM Group joined the global community to celebrate women’s achievements and raise awareness about women’s equality.

 

The investment institution organized a one-day virtual session themed “Choose to challenge Mediocre.” The session was aimed at educating and igniting women to challenge the status quo and take practical steps for progress together. The Session had guest speakers such as Director, Google, West Africa, Juliet Emihuan; and the CEO, Nigerians in Diaspora Commission, Honorable Abike Dabiri.

 

The Guest speakers charged their fellow women not to abdicate their roles in nation building, and to be the change agents for the desired future they envisage. They further advocated for support for   women to achieve individual success, collective advancement, and business improvement.

 

Commenting on the theme of the year, Director, Google West Africa, Juliet Emihuan challenged women to reflect on their successes.  ‘“Landmark events like IWD give us an opportunity to reflect on how far we’ve come, focus on what still needs to be done, and be inspired by the stories of triumph and success by women.” She said.

 

In her remarks, Honorable Abike Dabiri, challenged women to leave their comfort zones and participate in opportunities that gear towards career and personal fulfilment. ‘Women can do anything that men can do, if not do more, I therefore challenge all women to stop limiting ourselves and encourage gender support because together we can do more” she noted.

 

Celebrating International Women’s Day is an opportunity to recognize our employees’ successes and to continue the discussion on gender equity, said, Head of DLM Trustees, Lola Razaaq.’’ In DLM, we are committed to pressing for progress by nurturing a diverse, inclusive environment in which all of our people are empowered to achieve their full potential.” She added.

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What To Do When Couples Become Roommates, Not Sex Partners

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By Funmi Akingbade

A few days ago I got a call from one of my numerous readers, a couple who wanted to see me by all means despite the heavy downpour. I insisted the appointment could be rescheduled due to the heavy rain but they insisted on seeing me.

On getting to my office the wife spoke first; ‘she said they wanted to see me because of the question their eight-year-old son’s posted to them which they could not honestly answer. Their son had asked: “why does daddy always sleep on the couch?” in the middle of the couple’s conversation.

She continued: “We raised eyebrows at each other across the table, and looked at each other knowing fully that our little boy spilled the “secret” of our sexual dryness and drifting apart. Even though my husband tried to make him believe otherwise by saying “Your mom and I still sleep in our bed together,” but the boy quickly replied “Just not always anymore.”

“This is why we are here the wife said. We want you to tell us all we need to know so as not to drift apart sexually any longer.

No matter how you say it, marriage and a double sex-filled bed should go hand in hand. Cuddling under cover night after night, initiating endless intimacy and sex makes marriage healthy.

But sometimes sex gets lost in the shuffle of schedules and couples generally react to a bad case of drifting apart by either viewing sex as something to do and just get over. Or sometimes introduce pornography into their bedrooms, dangerously comparing their spouses to porn stars.

Needless to say that couples can choose to use a dull time in their sex lives to reinvent it, to refresh themselves, and restore their closeness.

Here are some ideas to jumpstart your sex life and gets it sizzling again. Make sex a priority; go to the extent of writing it on your calendar if you’re having trouble finding the time.

While sex is certainly not the biggest part of a marriage, it is a fairly accurate measure of the health of your marriage. It will enhance your sleep and your energy levels so plan for the first week to have sex every night for a week. Yes, that includes the weekend! Why? Researchers say having sex usually begets the desire to have more.

Ask your spouse what he or she needs. Men are different from women. Women need a reason; men just need a place. Men, if you truly want to touch your wife’s body, touch her heart first. Talk with her. Consider chatting her up in the kitchen as a form of foreplay!

If you have young children, take over bedtime duties and give your wife precious time to make the transition from mommy to sex goddess! Honour her and be sensitive to her needs.

Women, if you truly want to have a great intimate relationship, stop treating your man like he’s a rapist because he wants to have sex. This is his God-given desire and his best way of connecting with you.

In general terms, sex might well be more important to men than to women. So make the most of it. Make it your goal to make every room in your house sexually appealing. Get creative, try a fashion show with lingerie – greet your husband at the dinner table wearing his tie and nothing else. Even if you breast is sagging make sure you are under a blowing fan, the cool air will temporarily firm up the breast making your nipple stand out and this will appeal to him greatly, or wake him in the middle of the night for sex wearing his favorite colour hat. Send a text for his eyes only.

Like this couple visiting my office, sometimes some couple need more than the ordinary to revival their sex life and create a passionate heat between them. For instance a very advance version of doggy style has been of tremendous help to many of my clients.

So as my habit is I did not hesitate to introduce this ‘wonder working’ ‘all in one’ ‘ever ready to revive style’ to my visiting couple. This style can be practiced by any couple regardless of their age, years of sexual starvation or health condition.

Most importantly, the advantage of this result-proven style is that it helps couples to experience erotic sensation and gain back lost feelings.

QUESTION ONE

I think my sex drive is normal, and I love having sex with my husband. But lately I feel turned off because he seems to expect sex as a reward for everything. If he gives me money to fix my hair, if he spends time listening to my problems, if he takes me out to see my parent, he expects to be rewarded with sex. I hate feeling obligated. Do I owe my husband sex?

Married life works best when both partners focus on ways to express love and meet each other’s needs. It would be good for you to try to change the way you interpret his interest in sex. If your husband communicates his sexual desires in those terms, try to see his desire for frequent sex as an opportunity for you to show love. Of course, we hope your husband will start communicating his needs in a less demanding way, but you can still choose how you want to interpret those requests. Your husband may be trying to win your heart by performing acts of kindness and service and I personally think you should be happy because out there are countless wives who would give anything to have what you want to throw away. I think this should be a fun experiment for you.

QUESTION TWO

My wife and I have sex regularly, but it’s always the same and I’m bored with it. The problem is when I try to spice things up, my wife becomes shy or embarrassed. Then I feel like a hunter ready to devour a prey, forcing changes where she doesn’t want them. I’ve heard that sex between married people should get better and better, but that’s not true for us. What can I do?

Commonly, women prefer sameness and men prefer variation. That’s just part of the fascination and frustration of being male and female. Often for men the fantasies about sexual variety are more exciting than the actual experience of some exotic position. For a woman, those experiments may feel aggressive because she’s uncertain how they’ll feel or how well she’ll perform. If you can talk to your wife about your feelings and listen to hers, it could lead to some helpful negotiating. Learning to adapt to each other’s wishes and needs is what marriage is all about. Being the one to “give in” or make changes is often hard, but it will improve your relationship. Marriage requires some give and take from both partners.

QUESTION THREE

When I got married six years ago, I was glad to see that my wife likes things orderly. She is much neater than I am which is great. But her desire for cleanliness has its downside when it comes to sex. Even though I shower and shave beforehand, the smells and fluids associated with intercourse bother her so much that we’ve rarely had sex for more than two years. Instead, I am now having sex with her best friend. I know it’s wrong but her friend doesn’t reject me like she does.

Share with your wife your concern for her total sexual enjoyment as well as your desire for the closeness that genital sexual union provides. Taking to adultery few years into your marriage will not help. There may seems to be some question about your wife’s desire for sexual play and orgasmic release that you may need to know if it is simply the messiness of ejaculation that’s bothering her, then try using a condom (which would contain the ejaculate) or having intercourse in the shower (where ejaculate would be promptly washed away). Keep in mind that sex for her isn’t just sex – as it may be for you. Women tend to express their sexuality as inseparable from their feelings and relationship desires.

QUESTION FOUR

My husband and I have been married three months. On our honeymoon, he got a bad chest cold, and let’s just say the honeymoon wasn’t what I had been waiting for all those years. Both my husband and I were virgins when we married, and I thought that our sex life would be exciting and unstoppable once he felt better. Now, three months later, I am the one who makes the move to get intimate. It doesn’t seem to bother him. He thinks that because he use to fast and prayed a lot while single to keep the sexual thoughts away, now that he’s married he is just still in that mode he can’t seems to come out of that. My question is how I am sure he is not lying to me? Can one fast and pray to the extent that he will not have any sexual feeling in this time and age?

Human levels of sexual drive are on a variety of levels rather than being uniform. Just as most men have a higher desire for sexual play and intercourse and most women less interest, individual differences may reverse this usual pattern.

Each of you should explore openly and honestly your deepest attitudes about sex. How did you learn about sex and what were your earliest sexual experiences? What were the constraints that helped you maintain your virginity? Are there expectations about sexual “performance” that present anxiety when you approach sexual interaction? Understanding yourselves and each other may help you find a more agreeable level of interaction. I’d also like to emphasize the delightful journey toward marital oneness. I fully understand how long three months of newly wedded sexuality may seem, but want to encourage you to be patient. If, in fact, prior to marriage your husband had been fasting and praying to reduce his sexual thoughts and drive, it may take some time for those patterns of denial to diminish. Your patient acceptance of his sexuality can help him overcome those old inhibitions. Affirm and reward his interest and continue to invite him gently whenever you want.

QUESTION FIVE

My husband does not have a problem getting an erection, nor does he lack desire to have sex, but he almost never ejaculates. Is it possible for a man to feel satisfied by intercourse even though he does not ejaculate? I know he used to be able to ejaculate years ago but cannot now. Can you help us out here? I enjoy sex and want to make sure he does too.

It’s important to recognize the full extent of the male sexual response. The arousal phase marked by erection also includes other physiological changes including increase in heart rate and blood pressure, rate of breathing, flushing of the skin, increase in muscle tension, nasal congestion as the “erectile tissue” of the nasal cavity become engorged, lubrication of the urethra (producing a sticky discharge from the end of the penis), and a shifting of blood to the pelvic area. As orgasm approaches, all of these changes increase until the orgasmic release occurs. Orgasm is most obviously signaled by ejaculation, the forceful emission of seminal fluid from the penis. This produces only a part of the pleasurable sensation of the orgasm. The contractions of the vas deferens and outer leg muscles in a rhythmic cycle; the intense muscular contraction of large muscle groups such as the buttocks, thighs, and abdomen; sweating, a respiratory response; and the relaxation that follows all contribute to the intense pleasure of orgasm. These may occur to varying degrees during a particular sexual experience and as a man ages. Consequently, a man may have a satisfying experience without ejaculation. If the other aspects of arousal and orgasm are present, there may be no cause for concern.

One explanation for this may be that he is having “retrograde” ejaculations. In this condition the seminal fluid is directed back up the urethra into the bladder rather than externally out of the penis. But this could be treated if you both so desire. It is also possible for ejaculation to be inhibited by psychological factors (such as fear of pregnancy or financial stress), physical factors (such as fatigue or alcohol use), or as side effects from some medications (such as tranquilizers and antidepressants).

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A Mother’s Fight for Justice

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Okon Bassey writes that Mrs. Deborah Okezie, the mother of 11-year-old Don-Davis Archibong, a junior secondary school one student of Deeper Life High School, Uyo, Akwa Ibom State capital, is bent on getting justice after her son was allegedly sexually abused and molested by some senior students

A mother’s love knows no bounds and for Mrs. Deborah Okezie, that love has been sorely tested recently while trying to get justice for her son, 11-year-old Don-Davis Archibong, a Junior Secondary School (JSS) 1 student of Deeper Life High School, Uyo, Akwa Ibom State capital. She recently took to social media to protest the alleged sexual abuse and molestation of her child by two senior students of the school.

The Deeper Life High School, Uyo is one of the two campuses of the a co-educational secondary school owned and run by the Deeper Life Bible Church, pastored by one of Nigeria’s influential preachers, Pastor Williams Kumuyi.

Matters Arising

According to the aggrieved mother, her son was removed from the junior student hostel to senior students’ hostel where he was subjected to serial bullying, stigmatisation, intermittent starvation, as well as sexual abuse.

Citing dereliction or negligence of duty, especially by the boarding house master and the school principal, the mother said she first confronted the school principal and she expressed surprise but promised to look into all the complaints. However, she expressed shock that it got worse as confirmed when she went to pick her son for the Christmas break and close of term on December 19,2020.

She said they were kept in suspense for about two hours before the boarding master could release him and that was until she threatened to forcefully enter the hostel, in fear that maybe he had passed on and the school authority lacked the courage to inform them. When Don Davis eventually came out, he could not walk alone and he was assisted by some persons.

Upon enquiry from their son for the reason for such delay to release him, he told his parent that he had been subjected to some medication that morning of December 19, 2020, to activate his strength and energise him while other students were being released to their respective parents.

According to his mother, he was rushed for treatment in a private hospital in Uyo for wounds he got from weeks of sexual molestation from his seniors believed to have assaulted him using toes and fingers to poke his anus.

“They will remove his boxer and push their legs and hands into his anus. Look at a child I sent to school, he came back with a broken anus. They frequently starve and beat him up by the senior students,” she revealed in a viral video.

Initial Reaction of the School

Okezie, in the social media video that has gone viral, alleged that the principal of the school, Mrs Ndidi Solomon led a team of officials of the school to visit her in a private clinic in Uyo where the victim was receiving medical attention then and pleaded with her not to escalate the matter so they can settle the medical bills for the treatment of the child, an agreement that soon went south.

According to Okezie, she was forced to post the video and photos of her emasculated child on the social media in order for justice to be done.

In the video she posted on facebook, Okezie lamented that the principal and the school management were desperately working to sweep the matter the carpet.

“The school principal, Ndidi Solomon called me and pleaded with me not to escalate the matter, and that the school was going to pay for the treatment. Now, she has turned out to deny, and telling people that they should ignore me, that I was trying to blackmail the school that is why I’m bringing it on social media, so that the whole world would see”.

She alleged that the principal had removed her from the school’s whatsApp group platform for daring to bring the matter to the public.

Don Davis’ Story

Days after he was taken to the hospital for treatment, Don Davis with support from his mother, regaled Nigerians with his gory story in the hands of his purported victims.

In a Facebook live with his mum, Don Davis said he began to suffer physical assault from one of the teachers because he was bedwetting. ”When I got to Deeper Life school, because I bedwet, Mr Akpan uses belt on me. He uses any thing he sees, even if it is iron, belt, or he can even use stone. Because I bedwet, they transferred me from JS1 dormitory to SS1 dormitory.

“There were two boys named Ola and Shalom, they used to put their hands inside my anus, bring out feaces and then use that same hand to beat me. For two weeks I did not have my bath.”

When asked why he didn’t report the assault to the school authorities, Don Davis said Ola and Shalom, both SS1 students, threatened to kill him if he should ever report them.

Deeper Life Reacts

Following the hullabaloo the surrounding the story, the authorities of the Deeper Life High School issued a statement on the incident on their stance and interim measures taken prior to a full scale investigation.

The school said: “We will like to categorically restate that Deeper Life High School is built on the core values of godliness and excellence and will not tolerate any immoral act or molestation of any student.

“We believe parents and guardians enrol their wards in our schools all over the country because of the strong perception that ours offers a sure-footed platform for moral armament and academic excellence.

“We want to assure the general public that investigations into the case have commenced and no culprit, whether staff or student, will be spared if found culpable at the end of the exercise.

As an interim measure and to underscore the seriousness we attach to higher superintending values, the school principal has been suspended summarily even as further investigations continue.

“We firmly assure the discerning public that the overall outcome of the investigations will be made known and appropriate disciplinary actions will be meted to all culprits in this unfortunate act that admittedly threatens to case unnecessary aspersions on a unique institution that has been a shining example to all over the years.”

State Government Mediates

Reacting to the Okezie’s post on facebook, the Akwa Ibom State government directed the State Commissioner for Education to investigate the matter. A statement signed by the state Commissioner for Information and Strategy, Mr. Ini Ememobong reiterated the commitment of the state government to the protection of children in the state.

“The state government has noted with great concern, the complaints by a parent whose child is a student of Deeper Life College, Uyo. The complaints gleaned from social and traditional media, relate to the maltreatment and abuse of their child, which occurred at the said school”.

“Consequently, the Governor of Akwa Ibom state, Mr. Udom Emmanuel has directed the Honourable Commissioner for Education to immediately investigate these complaints and take necessary action. The state government is committed to the protection of children wherever they may be within its jurisdiction.”

Afterwards, the state government said the outcome on its investigations into the alleged molestation of victim would be released soon.

He said the panel of inquiry up the state government by would limit itself only to the administrative aspect which it has locus standi.

Ememobong said, “the investigation is ongoing . The allegation borders on criminality. Therefore, the panel of the state government by the Ministry of Education would handle only the administrative part. The part they have locus on. Very soon a full and comprehensive report will be coming out.”

Police Step In

But in the latest development, the Akwa Ibom State government transferred the case to the police for a more discreet investigation. A statement from the Commissioner of Information and Strategy, noted that government is committed to unravelling the truth behind the sexual abuse allegation of the 11-year-old boy, stressing that any who is found of wrongdoing would be prosecuted.

The state government urged members of the public to be patient since the executive council had met over the matter and the case transferred to the police for a thorough investigation.

Emmemobong disclosed that the sexual abuse case of the 11-year-old boy had also

been placed under the care of the Sexual Assault Referral Centre in Akwa Ibom for further medical investigation.

He said the victim’s parents and other interested parties had given their consents for the boy to be taken to the referral centre at Immanuel General Hospital, Eket.

The Information and Strategy Commissioner said the then Commissioner for Education, who has been investigating the alleged sexual abuse on behalf of the state government, was advised by the Attorney-General and Commissioner for Justice to hand over the case for the police to investigate. The commissioner of education has since been replaced by Nse Udo Essien.

He revealed that apart from the police, other organisations like the United Nations Special Rapporteur on Human Trafficking, Mirabelle Center, FIDA Akwa Ibom, Sexual and Gender-based Violence Response Unit of the Ministry of Justice, Akwa Ibom State, are interested in the case.

Police Investigation

Acting on the petition from the aggrieved mother, the Akwa Ibom State Police Command commenced investigation into the matter. The police, in a statement issued January 5, 2021, said Okezie, alleged that her son, Master Don-Davis Iniobong was inhumanly treated, sexually molested and suffered starvation. The petition was against Mrs Ndidi Solomon, aged 45yrs and three others.

Based on the petition, the Police Public Relations Officers of the state police command, SP Odiko MacDonald said the Commissioner of Police, CP Amiengheme Andrew ordered a discreet investigation into the matter and m enjoined all parties involved to exercise restraint pending the outcome of the investigation.

He assured the people of Akwa Ibom State that no stone will be left unturned in unraveling the truth, and that the outcome of the investigation will be made known to the general public.

Arraignment

Days after, a few staff of the Deeper Life High School, including two minors, were arraigned but six of them were eventually granted bail pending

January 20, 2021 when there will be a further hearing on the case by the presiding Magistrate of the court in Uyo.

Meanwhile, the magistrate therefore issued warnings to all the parties involved in the case to keep off from vulnerable media comments that may negatively affect the court proceedings.

Four of the accused persons were granted bail of N500,000 while the two minors (accused senior students of the school), were released to go meet their parents.

Those arraigned include Mrs. Ndidi Solomon (School Principal), other staff members include Joseph Nseabasi, Akpan Johnson, Egor Wilson, Joseph Ikenna. They were arraigned at the Magistrate’s Court based on four count charges such as sexual molestation, maltreatment, starvation, and negligence.

When the case was read, counsel to the accused applied for bail for them, noting that the alleged offence is bailable.

Demands

Meanwhile, earlier, the lawyer to the parent of the boy, David Okokon of Eagle-Eyes Network Chambers, wrote to the school demanding the payment of N100 million, as compensation for the dehumanising torture and indignity that Davis was subjected to and for his medical checkup and medication.

The counsel, in the letter dated December 22, 2020 equally demanded that the Deeper Life High School Idoro, Uyo to publish a public an unreserved apology to his client in two national newspapers; PUNCH, THISDAY and any other two local newspapers circulated within Akwa Ibom State and its environs.

Captioned “Gross Child Abuse, Palpable Molestation, Serial Bullying, Criminal Starvation, Malicious oppression and Dubious Maltreatment of Master Don-Davies Archibong (11years old) by the Principal and Boarding Master of Deeper Life Secondary School, Uyo”, The letter reads in part, “we are solicitors for Mr and Mrs Iniobong Archibong, resident in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State hereinafter referred to as our client. We have the firm explicit and unequivocal instructions to write to you on the above subject matter.

“It is indeed provocatively heartbroken, morally suicidal, religiously hypocritical that our clients’ 11-year-old son was torrentially bombarded with physical, and inhuman torture of debilitating dimensions with resultant castration of his human person, dignity, and childhood innocence.

“We respectfully demand the payment of N100,000,000 within 21 days upon the receipt of this letter as compensation to assuage the dehumanising, horrendous torture and indignity our clients’ son was subjected to and for his medical checkup and medication.”

 

 

 

 

Credit: This Day

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Trying Week For The Male Folk

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By Vincent Akanmode

 

The past week has been one of contrasting fortunes for the male folk and their female counterparts. For the female folk, it was a week of triumph in the art of chicanery for which they have built a reputation.  For their male counterparts on the other hand, it was a week that once again highlighted their weak and vulnerable nature with regard to women’s antics. In the week under review, no fewer than three prominent men were at the receiving end of the treatment the biblical Eve meted out to Adam, with dire consequences staring them in the face because they allegedly ate the forbidden fruit or attempted to do so.

It is a development that has left the male folk prostrate in a seeming battle of wits between the sexes. Two of the men in question have had their jobs on hold while the third, one of Africa’s wealthiest and most influential businessmen, is battling to sustain his hard earned reputation after pictures of his alleged philandering with some ladies became the butt of cruel jokes on the internet.

It all began like a piece of mischief when the story filtered out penultimate Friday that a former female employee of First City Monument Bank (FCMB) had declared the managing director of the bank the authentic father of her two children against the widely held belief that the children in question belonged to her husband. The shock of his wife’s admission of extra-marital affair with her boss was said to hit the husband so badly that he developed a stroke and later collapsed and died. Of course, both the MD in question and members of the deceased man’s family fought tooth and nail to put a lie to the story, but their efforts would not deter the board of the bank from suspending the MD and appointing a female successor in acting capacity.

Simultaneously as the paternal scandal in FCMB raged, the social and traditional media were awash with the story of a serving Commissioner for Environment in Ogun State whose alleged attempt to rape a 17-year-old girl resulted in his suspension by Governor Dapo Abiodun. As the story goes, the embattled commissioner had invited the hapless girl to his house to pick up a job as a computer operator only to take her into one of the rooms in his house and fondle her breasts. Although the accused commissioner has pleaded innocence, Governor Abiodun insists he must step aside to make way for a thorough and unhindered investigation.

And while the dust was yet to settle on the scandals involving the MD of FCMB and the Commissioner for Environment in Ogun State, two ladies sought to pull the lid off the largely anonymous social life of Nigerian businessman and one of Africa’s richest men by flooding the internet with pictures of their escapades with him, including one that exposes his backside as he lies on a bed. One of them even accused the businessman of breaking her heart while the other dismissed her claim as false, saying: “She’s not only looking for attention, she’s a hungry thug.”

To be sure, the guilt or innocence of the aforementioned men is yet to be decided. But if history is anything to go by, they will most likely end up with the shorter end of the stick. Since creation, the male folk have ended up the losers in battles of wits involving them and their female partners. In the Garden of Eden, Adam was the loyal, obedient servant until he pandered to the promptings of Eve and lost favour with God. Samson was a strong and highly successful warrior until his path crossed with Delilah and he lost his unique natural endowments after revealing the secrets of his life to her. King Ahab was a victim of Jezebel’s inordinate lust for power and affluence.

In contemporary times, we are living witnesses to the helpless condition of our own very President in his failed bid to confine his wife to “the other room”. The more he has tried to do so, the more she is out in the world launching tirade after tirade against him. So much so that it was recently speculated that she had become a virtual citizen of Nigeria, only paying occasional visits to the country from her base in the United Arab Emirates. When she is not accusing her husband of yielding his government to the jackals and the hyenas, she is threatening not to support his future political endeavours.

The question should not arise as to who is the weaker sex between the man and the woman. It is the women that lord it over the men, taking advantage of their purported disadvantage as the weaker sex. The arrangement that portrays man as the head of the family is a ruse. The woman only gladly concedes the headship to the man and contents herself with being the neck because she knows that the neck determines the position of the head. Whatever hold a man seems to have on his family would only last until the children are old enough to be on their own. The power baton changes hands at that point because the average mother takes advantage of their closeness to the children to tell them what to do for, to or with their father.

The feminine web from which the three men aforementioned are battling to extricate themselves is neither new nor easy. One can only pray that they succeed where Adam, Samson, Ahab, Macbeth and other men in similar conditions before them had failed.

 

 

 

Credit: The Nation

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